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Wyrd Allies

Harnessing the chaos in your relationships

About the Book

No matter how hard we try, we can never control our relationships with others. Whether those relationships are personal, social or professional, there's always a hint of chaos and confusion. And sometimes it can seem that life goes round in circles and cycles: the faces and places may be different, but in some weird way a different relationship can seem very familiar.

Breaking down the complacent gender-stereotyping which has developed over the past few decades, this book takes a refreshingly honest look at relationships and how these new stereotypes have in fact imprisoned us once again - and how and why we can break free from them once more.

Merging ancient mythology and modern chaos theory with the subtle insights of transpersonal psychology, Wyrd Allies shows how we can work with the wyrd (weirdness) in our relationships with others, moving beyond the chaos of control and manipulation, to a way of relating that empowers everyone.

Here we learn how every person can be an ally, whatever it may seem like, and every relationship can be a way of finding out more about our wyrd purpose in life.

Wyrd Allies is the second book in a new series that began with Positively Wyrd - also available here on Leanpub.

About the Author

Tom Graves
Tom Graves

Tom Graves is a writer and researcher with a special interest in intuitive aspects of the skills-learning process. He is perhaps best known for his books on dowsing and related subjects, such as The Diviner's Handbook and Needles of Stone (also available here on Leanpub). He is a computer specialist and is regarded as one of the pioneers of desktop publishing.

Table of Contents

  • Synopsis
    • Introduction section
    • Background section
    • Tools section
    • Context section
    • Wrap-up section
  • Preface
  • Introduction
    • Using this book
  • 1: A hint of weirdness
  • 2: Weird is a noun
    • Wyrd is a story
    • Wyrd is everyone
    • Wyrd is a feeling
    • Wyrd is an awareness
  • 3: Round and round the garden
    • Running nowhere
    • A garden-full of advice
    • A royal muddle
  • 4: Power and fear
    • A problem of power
    • A problem of fear
    • The weird power of fear
    • The weird fear of power
  • 5: Danger - children at play
    • The centre of the universe
    • Playing fair
    • Playing foul
    • The quest for the Inner Adult
  • 6: I and We and I
    • Which I is We?
    • Listening to We
    • The circles of We
    • The interweaving of We
  • 7: Boundaries
    • Boundary, barrier and wall
    • My fortress, my prison
    • Negotiating the boundaries
  • A problem of fate
    • Lessons in the weaving
    • Wyrd and geis
    • Every wyrd has an ending…
    • …but there’s always a choice!
  • 9: Subject and object
    • Everything’s an object
    • Everything’s my subject
    • Everything’s wyrd
  • 10: Blame and responsibility
    • Blaming the world
    • Blaming ourselves
    • The gatekeeper and the judge
    • Dancing with responsibility
  • 11: Use and abuse
    • Use and power
    • Context and consent
    • Threads of abuse
  • 12: Asserting ‘I’
    • ‘I’ is a choice
    • ‘I’ is a boundary
    • ‘I’ is a feeling
  • Sympathy and empathy
    • Sharing the passions
    • Twisted sympathies
    • Choosing sympathy
  • 14: Allies in wyrdness
    • Discovering allies
    • The wyrdness of allies
  • 15: Soul-mates and cell-mates
    • Heart and soul
    • The chosen ones
    • The love connection
  • 16: Wyrd sex
    • The weirdness of sex
    • The dance of Pan
    • The power of sex
  • 17: Girls and boys
    • Nature…
    • …or nurture?
    • Nurturing the wyrd
  • 18: Trust and commitment
    • Commitment
    • Trusting ‘I’
    • Trusting ‘We’
    • Trusting the wyrd
  • 19: A wyrd world of allies
    • A world of confusions
    • A world of power
    • A world of choice
  • 20: Sharing the wyrd
  • Further reading
    • Wyrd
    • Self-exploration
    • Philosophical perspectives
    • Fiction

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