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The book will properly start with theology and how we model an appropriate theology so that people start to believe that the Church is a safe place for survivors of abuse.

Then how to live out the theology so that people come to believe that they can trust you with their story, with their hurts and their healing.

We look at our understanding of privelege and power dynamics and how perceptions of them vary.

There is lots of practical advice including how to respond to disclosure, how to protect yourself, on confidentiality, on listening, on prayer, on guilt, shame, forgiveness, on PTSD, on body memories and how to interface with counselling. On how to encourage, use humour, cope with feelings, with women who cry (and those who can't), maintain boundaries, relate to families. On keeping the Church appropriately informed. On relating to the police and to health professionals. What to respond to about suicide threats and attempts.

This is the guide I wish I had found 8 years ago when I found myself totally out of my depth.

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