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For programmers whose minds excel at logic, systems, and clean inputs/outputs—but freeze the moment a conversation leaves that world.
Many in tech share the same patterns: treating emotions like bugs that need fixing, avoiding vulnerability because it feels inefficient, and watching the same struggles play out in their own relationships. The logical brain that ships great code can become the biggest barrier to real human connection, especially in dating and romance.
This short book is an honest icebreaker for anyone stuck in that place.

you’re simply running on the wrong mental model. By shifting from “solving” people to actually connecting with them, it offers a practical first step toward healthier, more successful relationships.
A deeper, detailed roadmap for programmers ready to go further is already in the works. If your brain is excellent at building systems but struggles to build connection, this is where to start.

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