I have made what I thought was an unholy mess of my life. I have experienced life events many of us feed off, to make us feel like we belong and happy - like forming relationships and having children. I also experienced despair and confusion in equal measure from the same things.

We can all be hampered by our past and get trapped by letting our bitternesses grow and troubles fester. We have to decide if we are going to fixate on the things and people that have made our lives darker, or take the lessons these events offer to teach us and use them as fixed points of understanding to go get more of what makes us happy.

Like so many others, I have struggled for meaning in my life. I have had to ask myself where I fit in and where I don’t. I have struggled with the meaning of things and the people I know, because I knew I needed to live and not just exist.

Slowly, I realised I was reflecting, learning and acting on my observations conversations and experiences. They were teaching me to interpret patterns that many know as life lessons.

I have tried to find happiness and direction in religion, family, relationships, work and even blotted feelings out by simply trying not to engage my brain. Then I came full circle and quielty accepted myself as both the problem and the solution. I do believe there is a spiritual life we can live in parallel with our physical life - actually I believe we are spiritual beings living physical lives. Our challenge is to work through this natural tension and conquer it, so you steer life rather than life circumstances steer you.

Everyone has an authentic life waiting to happen, that can be led with bravery and honesty. I take those risks now and that's all I'm trying to encourage others to do in the lives they lead.Everyone has a unique understanding of their life and the times. Because of this uniqueness I write about the patchwork of the dilemmas and delights many of us encounter and enjoy or fight against, as we live our lives in body and spirit.

I write for the restless, the imaginative, the curious, and those who don’t want to be told what to find in life. I just want to present the possibilities. I write these things becasue it might touch you. You might park it but like all those that write to share, you leave them to tick for all time.

…live, love, make mistakes, learn, move on and let it be.