Biblical Romance

Biblical Romance

Phillip Kayser
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Biblical Romance

  • Why We Need a Fresh Study
  • 1. Avoiding Legalism and License
    • Scripture gives more than one model and calls for flexibility
    • Scripture gives all the principles needed for this subject
    • What is Form and Freedom?
    • Form and Freedom in Romance
    • Spoiling what God intended to be delightful
  • 2. Surveying the Biblical Options
    • Let’s avoid reductionism
    • Marriages without a time of discussion or betrothal
    • Marriages with betrothal alone
    • Marriages after a season of discussion and betrothal
  • 3. Clearly Defining Our Terms
    • What a season of discussion is not
    • What a season of discussion is
  • 4. Clearly Defining Our Terms — Betrothal
    • Is betrothal Biblical?
    • What betrothal is not
    • What betrothal is
  • 5. Maintaining Purity
    • General Biblical Guidelines
    • A Detailed Study and Interaction With an Alternative View
  • 6. Is There a Place for Pre-Marital Romance?
    • Betrothal - Delightful Romance
    • Betrothal – Time For Developing Habits and Skills for Marriage
  • 7. Case Study: Genesis 24
    • Value of a father’s involvement even when older (v. 1; 25:20; 1 Cor. 7:36)
    • It is better to wait than to marry the wrong one
    • Be active in seeking a spouse (vv. 1ff; cf. 1 Thes. 4; Numb. 36:6; Jer. 29:6; Gen. 2:20)
    • Be willing to think outside the box when no one locally is a suitable potential spouse
    • Fathers should treat the issue of their children’s marriages seriously (vv. 2-3)
    • Don’t let your children become unequally yoked (v. 3)
    • Both fathers and other matchmakers can be involved in the search for a spouse (v. 4)
    • Don’t be desperate (v. 5)
    • Base your decision making on the inspired revelation of Scripture (vv. 6-7)
    • Find a wife that will fit your calling and follow you (v. 8)
    • All matchmakers should themselves be believers (v. 9)
    • Matchmakers must know the worldview, passions, desires, and personality of those they are serving.
    • Men should be able to financially support their wives (v. 10)
    • Fathers should be interested in passing on a multi-generational heritage (vv. 11-12)
    • We should bathe the whole process in prayer, seeking God’s guidance (vv. 13-14)
    • Have a set of essential criteria in a potential spouse and prepare your children to meet those Biblical criteria (vv. 13ff)
    • Objectivity is needed – not allowing beauty to blind you (vv. 15-16)
    • Have confidence in God’s providence and guidance (vv. 17-21)
    • Don’t be shy about asking questions (vv. 22-25)
    • Be God-centered (vv. 26-27)
    • Become the wise father that makes you the first one that your children turn to (v. 28)
    • One father can take initiative even if the other father does not (v. 29)
    • God can still bring good out of family situations that are messed up (vv. 30-31)
    • Don’t be swayed by pushiness; stay focused on God’s will (vv. 32-33)
    • Be confident that it is normally God’s will for all of our children to be married (vv. 34-40)
    • Fathers should model godly leadership to other fathers (vv. 41-48)
    • Fathers have authority to approve or disapprove of potential husbands (v. 49)
    • Get used to talking frankly about marriage potential (vv. 50-53)
    • The legitimacy of a bride price and dowry (vv. 50-52)
    • Women have a strong say-so in whom they marry (vv. 54-58)
    • Cast the vision of having many children (vv. 59-60; cf. Gen. 1:28; 1 Tim. 5:14)
    • Pass on a legacy and vision (vv. 59-60)
    • Fathers must relinquish control of their daughters once married (v. 61)
    • Instill spiritual qualifications of leadership in your sons (vv. 62-63)
    • Be confident that love can grow after marriage (v. 67)
  • Notes
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  1. Why We Need a Fresh Study

  2. 1. Avoiding Legalism and License

  3. 2. Surveying the Biblical Options

  4. 3. Clearly Defining Our Terms

  5. 4. Clearly Defining Our Terms — Betrothal

  6. 5. Maintaining Purity

  7. 6. Is There a Place for Pre-Marital Romance?

  8. 7. Case Study: Genesis 24

  9. Notes