You should write a book
No, this is not a book about how to write one, or even why you should write one.
There are a million reasons why you shouldn’t.
The reality is that there are so many reasons why you should not do so many things, leave many projects behind, or close all your dreams in a drawer.
And yet.
If you have stumbled on this book by accident and have no idea who I am, you’ll get more about what I do later on.
But if you know what I do, you’ll understand why I could no longer tell people to put their ideas into action and avoid procrastinating, if I wasn’t leading in the same way.
“Do what I preach and not what I do” doesn’t stand for long.
This book is one of those projects.
It’s actually the third that I almost didn’t write, because I could have found a million reasons not to.
This is a reflection on how many times we want to, but pause. We get close, but don’t follow through. We dream, but don’t act.
And we get so caught up in the roles and rhythms of daily life that we forget to ask what’s really ours to carry.
Because while it’s easy to stay on autopilot, something eventually catches up with us. A strange discomfort. A sense that something’s off, even if nothing is technically wrong.
That’s when we start to wonder: is this really how it’s meant to feel?
Over the past two decades - first in corporate, later as a coach - I kept hearing the truth spoken in different ways:
“I’m exhausted, but I can’t point to one thing that’s wrong.”
“I’ve built a good life, but it doesn’t feel like mine.”
“I didn’t plan it this way, I just followed the opportunities as they came along.”
“I can’t keep doing it like this… but I don’t know what else is possible.”
That’s the space this book comes from.
The Real Job
You were never officially hired for this job.
No one briefed you.
There was no contract, no onboarding, no title.
And yet, you’ve been doing it every day.
You show up.
You hold space.
You cover gaps no one talks about.
You lead through uncertainty, carry invisible weight, fix the chaos behind the scenes.
You try to be competent, kind, productive, and present, often all at once.
The real job was never about the job description - the one you sign on paper, with goals and deliverables.
Beneath that is the unspoken work: the emotional labour, the expectations you’ve absorbed, the fears you’ve buried, the freedom you crave.
No one teaches it.
It doesn’t come with praise or recognition.
This unseen work is how you lead yourself, how you respond when things get heavy, how you choose, again and again, who you’ll be in the middle of it all.
Sometimes we carry so much of this invisible job that we lose sight of ourselves in the process.
This book is a space to step back. To ask:
What’s really mine to do?
And more importantly:
What’s not?
Because you deserve work that fits. That fuels you. That means something.
Now let’s be clear:
This is not a book about leaving your job. It’s about recognizing what you’ve been holding and choosing a way forward that feels true.
Your unwritten job description is waiting.
This book is for you if:
- You achieved what you were “supposed” to want, but it doesn’t feel how you imagined
- You’re successful on paper but feel exhausted, numb, or disconnected
- You sense something needs to change but you’re not sure where to begin
- Part of you feels guilty for wanting more when you already have “enough”
- You’re tired of optimising yourself and ready to reclaim yourself
This is not a book about:
Quitting your job (unless you want to)
Work-life balance in the traditional sense
Becoming more productive (you are already doing enough)
This is a book about:
Recognizing the unwritten rules you’ve been living by
Understanding where they came from (and why they don’t work for you)
Rewriting them so your work (and life) match who you really are
A Few Things You Should Know
This book is not polished corporate language. It’s honest, sometimes uncomfortable. Because that’s what this work is.
None of us are finished with this work. We are all learning as we go. What follows is what has been useful, simple and real.
If a chapter calls to you, start there.
If something resonates, stay with it.
If something doesn’t, leave it.
This is your pace, your timing, your life.
One thing, though:
Once you see the unwritten rules you’ve been following, you can’t unsee them.This might make you question things.It might change things. It will likely ask something of you.
The discomfort of change is temporary.The discomfort of staying misaligned is not.
This is not a traditional career guide, and not another burnout-recovery manual. This is a realignment tool, a return to presence, a way back to work and life that fit.
For the ones who know there is more to this job, and more to you, than than what your working life has become.
If you’re still here, I’m guessing you’re ready.
Let’s begin.