1. Introduction

This book can be bought from https://leanpub.com/relationshipmagic/. A free sample is also available.

Since I live in America I’m writing from that perspective and culture specific to the US might be mentioned. These guidelines can be helpful to anyone in heterosexual, or LGBT relationships, or even in business. These guidelines are all about respect, communication, and understanding the person is a different individual.

I’ve been studying healthy relationships for 30+ years and I’ve picked up a lot of good info along the way. Most authors publish a book which is only about their pet model of, say, personality. But relationships cannot be explained with only a single model, nor can individual people. So this book will discuss several models and ways of explaining why people may act the way they do.

This book is not a magical fix for all a person’s problems. Real change requires real work. If you are not willing to do the work, and go out of your comfort zone, you cannot expect to change.

Many people have problems with relationships because they are not taught about the basics in school or anywhere else. This book is an attempt to give people the basic knowledge to use in their personal relationships. Much of this material can be used in business relationships and supervisor-employee relationships, i.e. learn about what makes a person happy, and do it.

Many people also get bad advice about what’s realistic in a relationship or not. If someone just uses fantasy to make decisions, they will be unhappy and fail over and over again. So this book will cover not just what is realistic, but will cover basic skills like communication, critical areas of compatibility (“must haves”), other areas of compatibility, and more. But most important, it will cover why a person needs to address their own insecurities first.

By knowing all these things it will help you find, and keep, the person of your dreams.

But nothing will work unless you take action and put good advice to work. Self-help requires change, and change requires work.

Note: The chapter on sex talks frankly about sex and sexuality. Sensitive people may not want to read that chapter.

Disclaimer: In this book I will be making some generalizations about groups. This does not imply that an individual fits this generalization, there will be exceptions to the rule.